Have you been thinking about confessing your feelings to that special person for a while, but you don’t know how or when? It is possible that, at first, we do not know how to do it and if it is the best time to say “I love you”. Declare our love openly is not an easy step, this is because we expose our intimacies to another person and it can be something dangerous for our self-esteem, however, it is something necessary if what we want is to take a step further in the relationship with the other individual or, simply, we want to remove that restlessness that we carry inside. If we feel that we must declare ourselves but are afraid of not being reciprocated, we can try a series of hints to test the waters.
It can also be the case that we are in a couple and want to express our love in another way and surprise our boyfriend/girlfriend. Whatever the case, it is important to be brave and openly express our feelings, in this Psychology-Online article we will show you how to say “I love you” without saying it.
Prudent time to say “I love you”
What is the perfect time to come forward?
It is possible that we ask ourselves this question over and over again, on a social level it is always said that we must allow a reasonable time to pass to declare our love. However, if we are clear about what we feel, there is nothing wrong with saying “I love you” after a few days.
The purpose of declaring our love should be merely expressive, that is, not expecting an “I love you too” since we are projecting a multitude of expectations that can be harmful to us. Whether a true love of a reciprocated couple or not, it is important to know that we must take the step, saying I love you without expecting anything in return is a huge exercise of courage. In short, there is no prudent time to say “I love you” if what we want is to open ourselves to a person.
Say “I love you” in other words: 6 tricks
There are several reasons why we want to say “I love you” without saying it. Either out of fear, shame or because we are looking for another way to express our love for that person we hold so dear. For whatever reason, we recommend the following ways to say “I love you” indirectly:
1. Take time to listen to their problems and feelings
Sometimes paying attention to what that person has to tell us is a clear sign of appreciation. We are social beings and despite our differences, we are always grateful to have someone we can trust. If we want to show you how much we appreciate your company, it is important to devote a little of our attention to your emotions.
2. Support that person
It is possible that the one or the one we appreciate so many needs a boost in their professional career, their studies, in a vital decision … therefore, it is essential to be by their side to support and demonstrate that, whenever they need it, we go to be by your side.
3. Take care of the details and surprises
Another way to say “I love you” without words is to make surprises that few people could do , taking care of every detail to give the correct message but without overwhelming the other person (in the event that we are not sure that love is reciprocated) . For example, remembering him or her during a concert and calling during their favorite song or inviting them to their favorite restaurant. It is important to observe if your reaction predisposes you to go ahead with the details or not, if the person feels comfortable with so much attention or if, on the contrary, it seems to show a certain discomfort.
4. Express how much you care
Either verbally or through caresses and physical contact (if given the opportunity and both of you are at ease). It is important to let him or her know how important he or she is to you. It is a very sincere and open way of saying “I love you”, once you take this step, it will be easier for you to go ahead and declare yourself openly.
5. Give him the space he or she needs
Although we all like to receive love and details, sometimes we need our intimate and personal space. Understanding that the person we love so much also needs this space and giving it to them is a very necessary token of love. Not respecting the space of others and not giving them a margin of freedom can be a sign of toxic behavior that we should avoid.
6. Dare to say ‘I love you’
Once these reflections have been shown to say “I love you” without saying it, it is time to ask ourselves whether to take the step or not. If we have felt comfortable following the other advice, the other person has shown appreciation and it has turned out to be reciprocal, there is no reason to be afraid to say out loud that you love them.
In the event that it is already your partner and you have expressed it before, it never hurts to drop an “I love you” from time to time. Tokens of love keep the flame and affection between two people alive.
Say ‘I love you’ and they don’t answer you
“What happens if I tell him that I love him but he doesn’t reciprocate?”
We must be clear that this situation can occur, despite trying to show our love, that person may not feel the same for us. This situation, despite being painful, does not have to be something to reproach anyone, the other person does not owe us anything if they do not really feel it from the heart, for that reason, we will have to accept rejection in the best possible way.
Suffering from heartbreak can have important consequences on our mental health, both on our self-esteem and on our security. That is why, before knowing how to say “I love you”, we will have to develop strategies to be stronger internally and love ourselves before anyone else. Self-love is the most effective fortress against a lack of love.
Saying “I love you” and not being answered should not be an impediment to continue looking for that person with whom to enjoy life, if your goal is that but it is difficult for you to find someone, we recommend the following article on why me it costs so much to find a partner.
Other ways to say “I love you” without saying it
It is likely that we have heard these phrases in our partner, good friends or family, the following words are indirect signs of love that our loved ones make us every day and that, on many occasions, we do not realize them:
- How was your day?
- I saw this and I remembered you
- Today it will be cold, take care
- I miss you
- I left some food, I thought you would arrive hungry today
- Would you like to see this movie that you told me about?
- Have a great time, tomorrow tell me how you have been
- Best of luck in the meeting!
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This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.