do you attract them

if you think about a person a lot do you attract them

It has always been said that if you think about something a lot you attract it. There are those who truly trust this statement, but there are also other people who believe that this statement is not so true and that, on many occasions, not by wanting or thinking a lot about that person you are going to attract them, that what really matters is to pass to action rather than constantly thinking about him or her. In this Psychology-Online article we want to clarify this question: if you think about a person a lot, do you attract them? Let’s see what the law of attraction is in love, what scientific evidence there is about it and if it really works or not.

The law of attraction in love

Why do I think about a person a lot? What does it mean? Constantly thinking of another person is one of the typical characteristics of falling in love. So thinking a lot about someone is love? It may be, although it is most likely falling in love and it may also be that you think a lot about someone because they have awakened some other intense emotion in you such as rage, anger …

In life, on many occasions, if we attract what we want, it is because we focus our thoughts and therefore our actions on caring for, attracting, conserving everything we love around us, from a person to a job and even that garment that we like so much. Therefore, when we put it on, we are very careful so that it does not stain, break or something happens to it.

Perhaps this last example seems very banal, but on a large scale and with more transcendental things we do the same: we take care of everything that makes us happy, and this attracts people. The outer world that we have is nothing more than a reflection of our inner world.

We have great power to attract things because if we think about it and visualize it in our mind, we direct our actions to achieve what is so clear in our mind. If you want a chance to attract the person you like, try first changing that phrase of “it is impossible for him to like me.” Value yourself more, arm yourself with courage, and think: “If I want to, I can achieve what I propose”.

Napoleon Hill affirmed that ” our dominant thoughts tend to magnetize our brain and, by mechanisms that nobody knows well, they act like magnets that attract towards us the forces, the people and the circumstances of the life that harmonize with the nature of these thoughts”.

Does the Law of Attraction Work?

According to the law of attraction, everything that you usually think, believe, and visualize becomes the basis of everything you can experience in your life. The reason? Very simple: if we have created it in our mind, it is much easier to create it physically. Thought is the seed that we plant and the objective is that a fruitful plant is born from that seed.

If we think of that person, our actions – consciously and unconsciously – will be directed towards the objective of attracting them. We are going to look at what they like, their way of being, etc., and we are going to try to adapt our behavior. First, to see the compatibility between the two and, later, to find a way to attract him/her.

As Zig Ziglar said: “You will never achieve what you want, you will only achieve what you can clearly visualize.” Karl Pibram, a neuropsychologist at Stanford University and director of the department, affirms that the power of thoughts, ideas and words lies in if they are translated into images before the brain can interpret them, the images become a source of great power that acts on our emotions, actions and on our body. In this article, we talk about the visualization technique.

Scientific evidence on the law of attraction

Scientific evidence on the law of attraction
Scientific evidence on the law of attraction

Different studies have shown that our brain is in charge of giving orders to our entire body. Each emotion we have, whether it is the result of an action, a thought, expectations, etc., our brain secretes a set of substances that make our body be in accordance with our mental state.

In the medical field, it has been possible to detect with numerous studies that there is a relationship between our thinking and our physical and mental health. It has been seen, then, that our negative thoughts affect in a detrimental way to our health with greater heart disorders, hypertension, skin problems, digestive problems, migraines, anxiety. Instead, positive thoughts are reflected in our health with greater chances of overcoming an illness or not falling into it, etc.

A clear example of all this is the relationship between our thoughts and emotions and the endocrine system: if we are very stressed, our brain secretes the so-called catecholamines. The release of these hormones involves suppression of the immune system, favoring the appearance of diseases.

In the same way, states of calm, tranquility, positivism, and enthusiasm favor strengthening the immune system, since the hormones that are secreted and the neurotransmitters stimulate it. In the same way, the law of attraction works like this: if our thoughts are positive, our whole body is disposed to something positive, on the contrary, if they are negative, our body withdraws to protect itself and not act.

So if you think about a person a lot, do you attract them? It will depend on how you think about the person. In addition, you do not attract her by the fact of thinking about her, but by the fact that imagining yourself close to this person produces in you a feeling of well-being that invites you to get closer to her, that is, to perform real actions that contribute to that you can be with that person. Therefore, although thinking predisposes, just thinking is not enough.

If you think about someone a lot, does that someone think about you? Simply by thinking, we cannot change someone else’s thinking. But, as we have mentioned, thought does influence behavior and our behavior with others influences our relationship with them.

If you dream of a person, is it because they think of you? Our dreams do not depend on the thoughts of other people but on our experiences and memories. Therefore, the answer is no. Just like that belief that says that when someone thinks of you you cannot sleep.

This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.

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